Moving from New York to South Korea to become an English teacher has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. As the one year mark approaches, I marvel at my milestones, accomplishments, and the lessons I’ve learned. Despite all this, it has also been the most challenging year too. It’s normal to face challenges when adjusting to a new culture and lifestyle.
Here are 6 Challenges You May Face In South Korea and Tips On How To Adjust:
1. People May Not Be Direct With You
One thing you’ll learn quickly is that people may not always say what they mean. When someone asks you if you would like to do something, you may feel obligated to say yes. It’s like a trick question. In some situations, you can decline but typically out of respect I think the rule of thumb is to accept, otherwise the person may not offer you something again.
2. Apartment Management
Your landlord may have or need access to your apartment. On the one hand if you require help with something, for example you’re leaving for vacation or need something fixed, it’s great that they can assist even if you’re not physically home. The challenge comes when management isn’t clear on the date and time that they are stopping by. They may show up randomly, like early in the morning or you may find your front door open because they came to work on something. This can be a source of frustration. This kind of situation doesn’t happen to everyone but it has happened to some.
3. Group Dining and Restrictive Diet
Group dining is very common in Korea. It’s very much a part of their culture: eating together. Though Korean cuisine consists of various dishes made with beef, chicken, duck, fish, seafood or pork, a restaurant may serve only one kind of meat. At many restaurants, portions typically serve two or a group of people. You’d need at least one other person who is interested in eating the same meal as you. This becomes challenging if you have a restrictive diet such as you don’t eat meats like pork or seafood. Pork meat or stock is found in many foods in Korea. Also, when you’re shopping for pre-made food, pork may not be stated on the front label.
4. Feeling Like An Outsider and Living Alone
Depending where you live, you might be the only foreigner around. If you don’t have a basic understanding of Korean, you won’t understand what’s being said around or to you most of the time. You may start to feel like an outsider after experiencing this day after day because it’s hard to join the conversations happening around you. You may feel like often times you’re misunderstood.
5. Communication With People Older and Younger Than You
Korean language is hierarchical. It emphasizes different levels of politeness and formality. The way that you’d speak to a child is not the way you’d speak to someone older than you, like an older co-worker, your principal or an elderly man or woman. It’s very important that you know the difference. Here is an example: Hello! Child (informal): anneyeong 안녕, someone older than you (standard): anneyeong haseyo 안녕하세요, school principal/elderly (most formal/ respectful): anneyeong hasimnikka 안녕하십니까. In the beginning you may accidentally bow when greeting a child or use informal language with an adult. People will be forgiving if you make a mistake but in the back of your mind you may feel like you’re offending people or not being formal enough.
6. The Quick Quick (Pali Pali 빨리빨리) Culture
There is a saying in Korea, stemming from their history of rapid infrastructure, called “pali pali,” which means quickly or faster. Everything is meant to happen quickly, like there’s a sense of urgency. Depending on the country you’re from this can be challenging. You may see people walking quickly in the work space or outside. You can see this “pali pali” culture in their fast food and parcel delivery service. While that’s great, plans can also change quickly or last minute. You’re expected to go with the flow and be flexible. There’s also another saying, “eat as fast as the slowest person at the table.” Well, the slowest person eats fast too, even if they’re eating a steaming hot bowl of soup.
One thing I know for sure is all these challenges helped me to think differently and better deal with situations like this in the future. It’s also given me more insight on Korean culture. As much as living in a foreign country has been challenging to me, it’s also challenging for the natives or locals to understand foreigners. With an open-mind, patience, and politeness (with a little straightforwardness when necessary haha) we can understand each other.
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Esther Reyna | 10th Aug 20
Amiga! Wao! Indeed you are a women of valor. Just to think about gives me anxiety. Thanks for sharing your journey. It has been awesome 👏🏽 reading about it and seeing pictures. May the Lord continue to give you wisdom and strength and blessings.
Naomi Beaubrun | 11th Aug 20
Thank you so much Esther. I always look forward to hearing your feedback. It’s nice to know how someone on the outside perceives this; it hasn’t been easy but God is good. May God bless you so much as well. Thank you for visiting my blog once again 💕
Chloé | 12th Aug 20
This is a great post and so relatable.
I would also get so frustrated when apartment management or even things at school got mixed up. Communication is difficult for sure.
Naomi Beaubrun | 12th Aug 20
Thank you for visiting my blog website Chloé! And tell me about it. The language barrier really creates room for many challenges but luckily things usually work out some how.